A big Vaccum

I beg to deviate a whole lot today, but I’m still in shock. It still feels like I’m watching a movie where we all know the major actor doesn’t die. Since a co-worker called me yesterday and told me she heard from someone, that heard from someone that M.J died, I’ve had goose bumps, at first I just figured TMZ has come again with their pranks and all or maybe someone just wanted to get into the spotlight for spreading such humongous rumour. I tuned in to CNN, it was the same story. Woaw, could M.J really be dead? Michael Jackson? The guy with the high jumper trousers and gloves? Don’t get me wrong, I know there’s no human above death, but i wish someone could just wake me up and say it’s a big joke. I know there are close people in our lives we had all wished at some point to see alive today, but I just couldn’t help but feel lost and wonder if that’s really all there is to life. I grew up loving Thriller and “Make the world a better place” and all those other songs that just steals the moment. Well, compared to other people that have long been dead, I guess he lived a good life. He made an impact, he gave a reason to dance and had his own share of wrong choices, wrong decisions, but today he is celebrated as an icon, a legend, a magical performer. My major worry now is for his kids. Who gets sole custody of them? How will they be brought up as normal citizens of the United States with paparazzi’s who will take up the unsolicited responsibility of snooping into their private lives and turning them into a public figure for good or bad at every given opportunity. I guess till then, I wish his family the fortitude to bear his loss and I only hope he got to make amends with God before he passed on. Thanks to everyone for stopping by on this blog and thanks for the e-mails and prayers for LAFF. I shall be back with more gist on LAFF. XoXo....

To have or Not to have?....

The issue of having house maids in Nigeria has become a very big one now. A lot of kids are recruited for this position and thus face a new turn in their lives. Many of them for the worst. As always we know there are two sides to a coin. When we spoke to majority of Nigerian so called “Oga/Madams”, they claim that many of their maids are thieves, rude and mean to their kids and they even go as far as saying they have evil spirit, that’s why they treat them the way they do, and when we spoke to the kids, their own story is just the opposite, lol. They said that their ”Oga/Madam” are the most evil of humans, they treat them shabbily, they hardly feed them or clothe them or send them to school as they promised their parents or agents. Most of them claim that it’s because of their evil acts, that make them steal from them and run away, or maltreat their kids. The girls say their “ogas” always promise them a better life that’s why they always agree to sleep with them (that’s for the once that are not forced to satisfy the men’s stupid sexual appetite). Looking at it from another chapter, Many homeless children and kids from very poor homes have gained positively in their new homes. My mom and I was talking some weeks back and she told me about a lady we always called Aunty xxx, who I actually thought was the man’s sister or cousin, although she was the only fair lady in the family and how she was brought from Calabar, Nigeria as a maid and the man and his wife gave her a Muslim name, sent her to a fashion designing school, bought the machine she was using to sew outside their house for her and treated her like she was family and still paid her for her services of taking care of the kids and the home. I was lost for words, I was shocked in a very good way. I was like for real? Aunty xxx? Woaw.... I guess this is what it should be right? Be a part of their success, make their dreams come through, like Aunty xxx (I even heard she’s married now and the man and his family were her sponsors) and not use them for odd jobs like hawking on the streets where they can get killed by reckless drivers or make them work like slaves all in the name of $5000 Naira ($40 dollars, i think) a month. My mom said there’s a popular market in Lagos, Nigeria called Sura market, where 90% of the women there are agents who organise all these kids as little as 10 years old as maids to people who need them. They tell their parents (biological or foster) that its better for their kids to be a maid than to live in such poverty and their share is 50% of the child’s earnings, where the rest of the 50% goes, i really want to know. I know the Child’s right act in Nigeria established in 2003, stated that no one should have a child as a maid, but an adult from the age of 21 who can make a decision on their own standing, but I was told not all states has accepted this act and the ones that have, are yet to practice it. I for one, will not even get a maid, because that would make me lazy and my kids will learn absolutely nothing about morals and domestic responsibilities and it’s also a risk when you get the older girls in the house with your hubby at home, god forbid bad thing, lol, lol. Anyhoos, what do you guys think about the whole maid issue, will you or will you rather not? And the child acts too? Our website is out oh, pls be a part of a big difference and be a member, visit us at www.laffglobal.webs.com we re still under construction sha, lol. XoXo....