Wednesday, July 29, 2009

When LOVE means something else.....

Funny how I thought I had posted this topic b4, anyhoos, I was with some bunch of pre-teens, helping them learn one or two things about growing up wisely and making a positive difference in the society we live in and I innocently gave an example about how you tell your fellow friend that you love him/her and won’t let them act in a wrong way etc, and before I even finished, one of the boys, a cute 11 year old boy just cut me short. He said” Aunty please can you use a different word, that love sounds kinda creepy” and you could tell he was almost blushing and very uncomfortable. Jeeez, what’s wrong with the word love I asked sweetly? And he says its either gay or they are too young to use the word and more examples from the rest of the team. I was left astounded. I thought Love was suppose to be an intimate feeling between two people, where affection, joy, peace and pillow fights are acceptable, I thought love was an affection shared between parents and kids, friends and colleagues etc. Even the bible linked love to patience, kindness, understanding and the rest of them, in fact welcome your brother with a holy kiss (meaning love your neighbour as yourself) But his word struck a chord. Truly, what is love? Is it a word that sounds creepy, a verb or noun that is a password to get laid? What has become of love where relationships are now based on deceit, name calling and cheating? Is it love that makes a woman endure a marriage where she’s been physically and emotionally abused? Why is it so hard to teach our kids and siblings that it’s okay to use the word “I love you” indisputably? I want to have a home where my kids will not be shy or afraid to use the word LOVE, I want to teach my kids and nieces, nephews, cousins, god kids what it means to love and be loved-AGAPE to EROS guiding them every step of the way. I want to have a home where my husband and I will have fun playing xbox, wii especially the rockband, and pillow fighting and watch soccer together where Chelsea beats whichever team he’s a fan of and of course I won’t mind him stealing my beef when I’m cooking, lol. I want a home where my family and I would share the word of God in fun and exciting ways and above all where Love has come to stay. But what then is love? My friend would always say, xxx wake up from your dream and face reality there is no such thing as love. While I hope you guys share your thoughts with me, I’m gonna try and convince my lil pals that love is more yummy than creepy. xoxo.....

7 comments:

Maxine said...

wow, that is sad! in todays world, love jas been distorted beyond recognition. "How does Love survive in such graceless age?"- India Arie. I think you are on the right path as long as you are helping others to believe in love as a positive thing! Blessings!

dj master said...

awww, i'm sure you'll make any guy a proud husband.
ur friend is wrong though, even if a lot of pple dont believe love exsit today bcos of how bad they've been hurt, love truly does, its abt findin it n holdin on to it

Vera Ezimora said...

LOL @ creepy love. Hehehehe.

Big heart said...

Many thnaks maxine for dropping by.i think dats a goood question by india Arie, i'll go listen to it now....
Lol @ djmaster, na u sabi oh, but truly my friend could be wrong,but wat if she/he's right too...
Lol @ vera...odikua creepy i tell you

RocNaija said...

Wait...
You play the xbox, wii and watch footie as well??????

What's your phone number again?! :D

j/k

Anonymous said...

wow steal beef frm d pot, gosh i remember my mom always runnin after my bros for daat way bk, lol...preachit sis, love is as yummy as ice cream and candies wit d rite pple oh

Big heart said...

@rocniaja: yep,yep,yep...a very big n faithful fan of blues, lol @ wats ur phone no

@Anony:lol, i think all mothers chased deir male kids out of d kitchen. its fun actually n love berra be like icecream and strawberry cheesequake blizard wit a drop of caramel, lol(its dairyqueen's fault oh)